Category: Couples

Building your relationship to ensure it stays fresh and exciting!

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The excitement that stems from a new relationship can make you feel on top of the world. As the newness wears off, the relationship can feel like it’s growing stale. You aren’t doomed to remain in a dull and boring relationship, however. There are some steps you can take to keep a mature relationship fresh and exciting.

 

1. Send Romantic Text Messages

When you’re apart, send romantic text messages to one another. This can build anticipation for when you’ll see each other again. Use texting to send short messages of love, admiration, and encouragement. Don’t be afraid to send some sexy text messages to spice things up. It is a simple and easy way to keep the romance in your relationship.

 

2. Verbalize Your Loving Feelings

Don’t forget to use your words to express your feelings. Sometimes people forget all those mushy things they used to say to one another once the relationship matures. Say, “I love you,” often and don’t shy away from words that truly express how you feel.

3. Try Something New Together

Participating in a new activity together can keep the relationship exciting. Take a Chinese cooking class, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or take golf lessons together. A willingness to learn something new can help you grow together as a couple.

 

4. Schedule – And Go Out For – Date Nights

You’ve heard it before — and you’ll keep hearing it: without evenings that force you out of the home and out of your comfort zone, that lovin’ feeling will be few and far between. That’s why Thomas reiterates the importance of scheduling and maintaining a date night. “Make it a point to keep the romance and passion alive and not taken for granted where it is forgotten and/or becomes a routine. Planning and keeping date nights and being intimate on a weekly basis is very important as a way to reconnect with more emotional and sexual levels,” she says. “Just make sure you are fully present during these experiences, i.e. no looking at cell phones, computers, TV, etc., so that the true attention, focus, and emotion are there during these times.”

 

5. Celebrate triumphs

Supporting your partner through rough times is vital, but it is just as important to be supportive when things go right. Couples who celebrate achievements and triumphs are more satisfied with their relationships, experience fewer conflicts, have more fun together, and are happier in general. So the next time your partner gets a promotion, meets a new exercise goal, or just has a really great day, make sure to celebrate with them.

 

6. Take Trips

Sometimes, all you need to do to revitalize your long-term relationship is to plan an escape together. Whether it is a 2-week getaway to the Maldives or a one night stay at your favorite hotel in the city, take a trip with your partner and treat it like a second honeymoon. If both of you cannot seem to take time off or if you have financial constraints, then plan a simple picnic in the park or have a glass of wine at your favorite lookout point.

 

7. Always forgive

You may think that your partner should know better by now, but always remember that they too are human. You are not the only one learning and growing in the relationship. Mistakes will be made and all you can do is forgive them. If it won’t be such a big deal, just let it go.

 

8. Consider your commitment

People usually point to specific causes like stress or disagreements regarding money, work, the kids, or sex as the reasons for a faltering relationship. Deeper down, however, general issues like an unbalanced level of commitment are usually at play.

  • If one party lacks an adequate commitment level to an important aspect of the relationship — such as pinching pennies to pay of debts or setting aside time for family activities — the resulting friction can make every day seem like a recurring battle.
  • By talking to each other and working together to identify weak links for either or both of you, you can begin the process of smoothing out these spots of friction. So yes, you both have to commit to working on your commitment.

 

9.If you admire them, let them know

There are some qualities that each of our significant other possesses which made them feel special to us in the first place.

What is it in yours that blew you off?

Was it a beauty? Intelligence? Verve? Ability to hold a conversation?

Whatever it is, it’s still there, and if you’re reading this you still admire it. Now all you have to do is let them know from time to time. If you place yourself in their shoes you’ll probably know how happy it makes someone to know they’re still valued and special to their partner.

 

10. Establish Goals Together

Create some goals that you can work on together as a couple. It may include a financial goal, such as saving a certain amount of money to go to on a vacation. Or, it could include a fitness goal, such as running a half marathon together. Working toward your goals can help you feel like a team and gives you new things to talk about and do together.

How to spend a lovely weekend with your other half

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Many times, couple that visit therapists complain about the lack of option when it comes to doing something with their other half. As a fact, there are many types of research available that back this up. Many times, you feel like there is nothing available to do to entertain yourself. However, that’s not the case. It is just the routine making things feel boring.

I decided to create this guide to help other couples that may struggle with this. Therefore, these are our suggestions:

Buy a new gadget

Buying a new gadget can be a pleasant experience in a relationship. Just make sure to buy something that both can use. A friendly couple recently bought a new hookah. Since they got it they are hooked on it. Be careful, shisha or hookah can be harmful to your health. Therefore, if you are not smoking find something else that can entertain you. Some other suggestions can be tablets, tv boxes, scooters etc.

Unplug together

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Working and event entertainment require us to be connected to our “smart” devices 24/7. Taking some time to unplug could be beneficial. If you feel burned out then this is our best suggestion to you. But, you have to commit to this commitment. Unplug means to leave your electronic devices at home. If you cannot leave them at home (because of children, family or in case of emergency) make sure to keep your promise and don’t use them for random stuff like scrolling down on your newsfeed.

Take a short/long trip

Taking a short or even a longer trip is beneficial. The benefits of traveling are countless and so the benefits of it in your relationship. Couples that travel often together tend to have better communication and a lot of other benefits such as sexual relationships as this survey claims.

Another benefit of taking short or long trips with your husband or wife is that the couple’s sense of humor and taste is built together. Also, traveling encourages mindful lives.

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Are Couples Suppose To Argue?

A couple’s relationship is not all the time the sweet lovey-dovey one. No matter how similar and agreeable the couple is to one another, they will fight at one point. Is it normal for a couple to fight? Yes, it is. However, it is not a bad sign in a relationship. It is actually a good one.

Why Do Couples Fight?

There are many reasons actually. But, the most common reasons and some situations why couples fight about that are as follows:

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  • He or She spends too much or recklessly.
  • He or She is so strict with spending.
  • He or She earns more than the other.

Extended Family

  • He or She feels like the house is overcrowded if the in-laws live with them.
  • He or She thinks their privacy as couples is compromised.
  • His or Her extended family do not get along with her or him.
  • His or Her extended family snoops in their relationship and personal issues.

Housework

  • He or She does too much housework and she or he is not helping around.
  • He or She contributes avoidable extra housework.
  • He or She feels underappreciated with his or her work around the house.

Physical Intimacy

  • He or She spends most of his or her time with work and kids than her or him.
  • He or She is too tired to get intimate with the other.
  • He or She feels that their relationship is losing physical intimacy.
  • He or She neglects the needs of his or her significant other.

But even though that is the case, a couple’s relationship is strengthened by these arguments.

 angry couple on deckHow Are Couples Fighting A Good Sign?

Below are some ways how fighting with one another is a good sign in a couple’s relationship and why they are supposed to fight.

They Are Comfortable With One Another

If he or she can stand up against his or her partner, it means he or she is not afraid of his significant other. It also signifies that he or she will not keep silent and later on walk out the door. He or She will stay and talked about their differences. This also means that they are well-suited to each other. They will not end things because of some choices they made.

Their Passion For Each Other Is Deep-Rooted

When a couple fights one another, their passion is very deep-rooted. He or She will not fight her or him if he or she is not passionate about her or him, their relationship, and the problems that come with their relationship. The best part of their fight is the aftermath. It simply means that the harder they fight, the sweeter they make up. If they often fight, they often have sweet makeup moments.

They Respect One Another

Arguments are not always a shouting competition. It is actually an intense discussion of their different views. This means both him and her are strong-willed people. They are not dependent or submissive to the opinions of the other. Couples must agree to disagree meaning they should stand their own ground while accepting the other despite his or her views. Meeting halfway is usually the solution.

They Want To Solve Their Problems Together

He or She will not raise the argument if he or she does not want to solve their problems together. If he or she kept silent or solve the problem on his or her own, this will not solve the problem completely. It can only be beneficial to one side and will, later on, destroy the relationship. Couple must be together from thick to thin.

Are couples supposed to argue? Yes. Arguments make their relationship stronger and healthier. Why do couples fight? Whether it is something important or anything ridiculous, if they truly love each other, they will find ways to amend it. With their love, they can conquer any hurdle in their relationship.