The excitement that stems from a new relationship can make you feel on top of the world. As the newness wears off, the relationship can feel like it’s growing stale. You aren’t doomed to remain in a dull and boring relationship, however. There are some steps you can take to keep a mature relationship fresh and exciting.
1. Send Romantic Text Messages
When you’re apart, send romantic text messages to one another. This can build anticipation for when you’ll see each other again. Use texting to send short messages of love, admiration, and encouragement. Don’t be afraid to send some sexy text messages to spice things up. It is a simple and easy way to keep the romance in your relationship.
2. Verbalize Your Loving Feelings
Don’t forget to use your words to express your feelings. Sometimes people forget all those mushy things they used to say to one another once the relationship matures. Say, “I love you,” often and don’t shy away from words that truly express how you feel.
3. Try Something New Together
Participating in a new activity together can keep the relationship exciting. Take a Chinese cooking class, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or take golf lessons together. A willingness to learn something new can help you grow together as a couple.
4. Schedule – And Go Out For – Date Nights
You’ve heard it before — and you’ll keep hearing it: without evenings that force you out of the home and out of your comfort zone, that lovin’ feeling will be few and far between. That’s why Thomas reiterates the importance of scheduling and maintaining a date night. “Make it a point to keep the romance and passion alive and not taken for granted where it is forgotten and/or becomes a routine. Planning and keeping date nights and being intimate on a weekly basis is very important as a way to reconnect with more emotional and sexual levels,” she says. “Just make sure you are fully present during these experiences, i.e. no looking at cell phones, computers, TV, etc., so that the true attention, focus, and emotion are there during these times.”
5. Celebrate triumphs
Supporting your partner through rough times is vital, but it is just as important to be supportive when things go right. Couples who celebrate achievements and triumphs are more satisfied with their relationships, experience fewer conflicts, have more fun together, and are happier in general. So the next time your partner gets a promotion, meets a new exercise goal, or just has a really great day, make sure to celebrate with them.
6. Take Trips
Sometimes, all you need to do to revitalize your long-term relationship is to plan an escape together. Whether it is a 2-week getaway to the Maldives or a one night stay at your favorite hotel in the city, take a trip with your partner and treat it like a second honeymoon. If both of you cannot seem to take time off or if you have financial constraints, then plan a simple picnic in the park or have a glass of wine at your favorite lookout point.
7. Always forgive
You may think that your partner should know better by now, but always remember that they too are human. You are not the only one learning and growing in the relationship. Mistakes will be made and all you can do is forgive them. If it won’t be such a big deal, just let it go.
8. Consider your commitment
People usually point to specific causes like stress or disagreements regarding money, work, the kids, or sex as the reasons for a faltering relationship. Deeper down, however, general issues like an unbalanced level of commitment are usually at play.
- If one party lacks an adequate commitment level to an important aspect of the relationship — such as pinching pennies to pay of debts or setting aside time for family activities — the resulting friction can make every day seem like a recurring battle.
- By talking to each other and working together to identify weak links for either or both of you, you can begin the process of smoothing out these spots of friction. So yes, you both have to commit to working on your commitment.
9.If you admire them, let them know
There are some qualities that each of our significant other possesses which made them feel special to us in the first place.
What is it in yours that blew you off?
Was it a beauty? Intelligence? Verve? Ability to hold a conversation?
Whatever it is, it’s still there, and if you’re reading this you still admire it. Now all you have to do is let them know from time to time. If you place yourself in their shoes you’ll probably know how happy it makes someone to know they’re still valued and special to their partner.
10. Establish Goals Together
Create some goals that you can work on together as a couple. It may include a financial goal, such as saving a certain amount of money to go to on a vacation. Or, it could include a fitness goal, such as running a half marathon together. Working toward your goals can help you feel like a team and gives you new things to talk about and do together.